When you've been diagnosed with breast cancer, telling people about your illness can be a difficult thing to do. Choosing whom to tell, and when you tell them, is a very personal decision. There is no right or wrong way to do this.
At first, you may decide to tell only your close family and friends. Or you may want to share the diagnosis with everyone you know. Some women prefer to have a close friend or family member tell others for them. This is your decision. The important thing is to tell people in a way that feels most comfortable for you.
Reactions to your diagnosis
Be prepared for people reacting differently when they hear about your diagnosis. Some will be very understanding and supportive, while others may be uncomfortable and not know what to say. Although concerned for you, some people may fear for their own health and even stay away from you. This reaction is rare, and you will likely find the most common reaction is overwhelming help and support.
Some helpful tips
Talk about things openly. Be direct and honest. Tell your friends and family how you feel about your diagnosis. State your feelings clearly.
Share as much information—or as little—as you wish to. It may help you to prepare ahead of time how you will tell people about your diagnosis and how much information you wish to share. Some people may respond with lots of questions.
Accept help. By letting your friends and family help you, you will show them that you trust and respect them and also need them. Think of practical ways they can support you. With their help, you can devote more time and energy to positive and enjoyable things in your life.
When telling young children , keep your explanations simple. Use language that they will understand.
More Information
Source
Canadian Breast Cancer Foundation – Ontario Region. (2008). Guiding women though a breast cancer diagnosis. A supportive and personal approach.